We live in a culture that glorifies the "Martyr Mom."

The mom who does everything for everyone else while neglecting herself.

The mom who says, “I’ll exercise when I have time” (but never makes time).

The mom who tells herself, “I’ll take care of myself when the kids are older” (but never does).

And while you’re running yourself ragged, your children—especially your daughters—are watching.

👀 They’re learning that this is what moms do.​
🚫 They neglect their own needs.
🚫 They don’t set boundaries.
🚫 They put themselves last.

I once had a consultation with a woman who wanted me to train her teenage daughter.

She wanted her daughter to feel strong, confident, and better in her own skin—so she was looking for a trainer.

But when I asked what she was doing for her own health, she laughed.

She told me, “My doctor told me I need to stop stressing. I laughed in his face.”

😳 Yikes.

She was willing to invest time and money into her daughter’s well-being but didn’t believe she was worthy of the same care.

Self-Love Isn’t a Luxury—It’s a Lifeline

I know "self-love" sounds like one of those soft, fluffy terms people throw around in yoga classes.

But damn, we could all do amazing things with more of it.

Because self-love isn’t about bubble baths and spa days.

💡 It’s about giving yourself the same level of care and kindness that you give to everyone else.
💡 It’s about recognizing when you're drowning and choosing to reach for the life raft instead of just trying to swim harder.

When I started taking care of myself, I didn’t just become a better mom.

I became a happier mom.

And my kids got to grow up with a mother who was present, engaged, and thriving—not just surviving.

🛑 Loving yourself enough to prioritize your own well-being isn’t selfish.​
✅ It’s necessary.

So Tell Me…

💭 What’s one small way you can choose yourself this week?
💭 What’s one step you can take toward self-care without guilt?

Hit "reply". I'd love to hear from you!

Coach Julie.